What a painful time for all those who are losing their innocent family members and loved ones to Covid19 all over the world.
Losing a loved one is a very painful experience and this single word cannot describe how devastating such a loss is. Your whole world collapses. The life as we knew, changes permanently. There are no doctors to help you handle such a blow. Its individual journey of enduring, accepting and overcoming.
None can replace our loss. People ask one to move on but that never happens. One gets stuck up, in life before them and after them.
The pain doesn't go away and it takes unspecified time to be able to hide the pain without showing it. The pain and hurt can be felt anytime. Anything can trigger it.There is no time limit for grief. We manage to handle it with passage of time depending on our own individual capacity.
Nothing can bring them back who have shed their body garment and their divine soul has left for the real HOME. So all we do is learn to cope with the grief in best possible way.
Faced with such a huge loss and emptiness, we start searching for answers like 'why me' etc. We find lots of books etc available. Knowledge of the way things work in nature is very helpful. Learning about unseen world beyond what we see tells us that your loved one is not dead after all. They are alive but now in some other dimension.
We realise, we can meet them one day so we learn to accept our loss peacefully. Moreover, in between they send us signs of their 'aliveness' by sending ADCs, signals, subtle hints etc. Life becomes liveable to know that all is not lost.
Faith in Supreme is the key here. Love for self is another key. Know and believe that you are special child of God. God knows and is sad to see u in pain. God loves you. You have not been punished at all. This is result of soul agreement u had with them before birth. You made that agreement for special reason which you do not understand right now. And you are feeling lost and hurt. But when that reason would be revealed to you one day, you would be surprised. One day you would be hugging them soul to soul and rejoicing that you fulfilled such a big mission successfully. You will be blessed by God for your great courage.
Sacred books of all religions that I have read so far, say the same thing but in different style, actual meaning is the same. This loss you suffered has a reason behind it. No death is an accident. The time of birth and death are fixed even before birth.
Take care of yourself. Spend time with mother nature. Feel your connection to nature. Write a diary note to your loved one every night before sleeping. All your thoughts will be received by them. In their world, there are no speeches. The soul understands all human feelings, thoughts and emotions and communicates through thoughts only. Try to understand their subtle messages.
If you feel or sense some response from him, trust your instincts and believe it to be from them only. In your vulnerable state you unawares open yourself to subtle universal signals from mother nature.
Avoid company of people who do not understand you or leave you hurt in any emotional way. We lose lot of 'fake' friends' after such big loss. Pass through this pain. Let it flow through u. This is part of your big learning. One won't make such tough soul agreements without special reason. Trust yourself.
Read NDEs, Brian Weiss books, books on afterlife to get a new perspective etc. Love lives on, it never dies. Knowledge of afterlife can make you see things in clear perspective and you don't feel the sting. You survive through it and come out as winner.
Discuss your loved one often. Don't shun and be open to discussing the life and time of your loved one you lost. Its healing to discuss them often otherwise you are suppressing and adding on to depression.
Vandana Ritik
